Afterword to the 20th anniversary edition 2016.

Includes bibliographical references (page 151).

Intimacy with fear -- When things fall apart -- This very moment is the perfect teacher -- Relax as it is -- It's never too late -- Not causing harm -- Hopelessness and death -- Eight worldly Dharmas -- Six kinds of loneliness -- Curious about existence -- Nonaggression and the four maras -- Growing up -- Widening the circle of compassion -- The love that will not die -- Going against the grain -- Servants of peace -- Opinions -- Secret oral instructions -- Three methods for working with chaos -- The trick of choicelessness -- Reversing the wheel of Samsara -- The path is the goal.

Describes a traditional Buddhist approach to suffering and how embracing the painful situation and using communication, negative habits, and painful emotions leads to emotional growth and happiness.